But here's one thing that's really important about being a human and filtering information- there's a difference between CAUSATION and CORRELATION. Now I don't mean to discredit the sufferings of this young woman, because having poor sexual relations in her marriage is surely traumatic, and being scared into abstinence by her church is terrible and misguided. But this article troubled me because she was suggesting that abstinence had a causal affect on her sex life, and not perhaps some sort of correlation. I mean to say that abstaining from sex perhaps wasn't the only reason she was having issues in her marriage, and waiting to have sex shouldn't have to take all the heat. After all, I personally know many couples who have abstained from sex until marriage and are very happy. So too, I know a great number of married people who were not virgins on their wedding day and have a wonderful sex life. Or a bad one. Or none.
The decision whether or not to have sex outside of marriage is a very personal one, and you should never ever let anyone scare you into making that decision based off of their personal experience. Cuz, well, you aren't having sex with them so in the end their sex life doesn't make that much of a difference.
Whatever your decision is regarding your virginity, or lack there of, you should really know that it
Although I have come across a great deal of research discussing marital happiness and number of sexual partners in Family Studies, at best they are CORRELATIVE, AND NOT CAUSAL. You just have to educate yourself to the best of your abilities with the filters your decide to put on your decision making and live your life.
Go forth and read blogs carefully. And don't trust anyone who writes them.
